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Problems are a part of life.

Quite literally if you do not have problems in your life, then you are either dead or catatonic.

I remember hearing a quote from Eric “ET” Thomas, it went something like this, “Problems are a part of life, you are either in a storm, you are coming out of a storm, or you are going to a storm.”

So if we all face problems, then how are we to overcome them?

What are the tools necessary to get through the proverbial “storms” of our lives?

I am not sure I have the “answer” but I may have something that can help. For the past month I have had a renewed interest in Tony Robbins.

It might help to give you some context. In 1996, I took an audio course by Tony Robbins, entitled, Personal Power II. It was very instrumental in shaping the direction and course of my life now.

Living in San Diego during the 1990s and 2000s I was privileged to be in one of the capitals of self-help. With some of the top self-help authors living in and around San Diego, like: Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield, Lousie Hay, Ken Blanchard, Brian Tracey, Denis Waitley, John C. Maxwell, the late Debbie Ford, and many more, the list goes on and on.

Growing up in an area such as that, it only made sense to have a small interest in self-help.

Fast forward to the present.

For some reason or another I had a desire to spark up my interest in Tony Robbins and I have been listening to his audio tapes.

In one of the audios, Tony teaches the 6 questions to solving any problem. Here are the questions and I will follow-up later with some context:

1. What can I learn from this?
2. What’s great about this problem?
3. What is not perfect yet?
4. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
5. What am I willing not to do to make it the way I want it?
6. How can I enjoy the process?

Tony recommends that the questions must be asked in a great state or at the very least in a positive state. You are to come up with different answers and write them down. Writing the answers down is critical because it gets out on to paper what is oftentimes not seen.

Why This Matters?

Last Sunday, my wife and I went to the hospital to visit the godfather of my son.  He has been in the hospital for the last 2 weeks in critical condition.

Early this year he was diagnosed with brain cancer that eventually spread throughout his entire body.

He is now living on an oxygen tank to sustain him as his lungs have collapsed and no longer function.

It was a trying time to say the least.

Here is a man that is still a youngster at only 65 years of age who has been extremely active his entire life working in construction. He is a father and grandfather. He has 3 grown sons. A wife of 50 years.

Now this vibrant and active person is confined to a hospital bed where his wife and nurses have to serve all of his basic needs like going to the bathroom and eating.

This Sunday, he was visited by all of his family, from his 3 sons, to his cousins, nieces/nephews, etc.  Not knowing whether he was going live or die we all paid our respects.

The hospital that he was admitted to was a hospital where patients go when the doctors have given up all hope and have no way to help the patients. In other words, it is a hospital for the incurable.

(Photo: Hospital Provincial, Toledo, Spain)

Walking the halls of this hospital and passing room after room, I saw patients in comas, others attached to life preserving machines, other curled up in a fetal position almost waiting to die.

It was a very sad and dark place to be.

Remember the teachings of Tony I began to put into practice what I had been studying for the past 30 days.

I can honestly tell you that I did it more subconsciously than consciously, but looking back on it, I can definitely attribute last Sunday to going through these 6 questions.

Question 1. What can I learn from this?

This question, directs your mind to look for the lessons to be learned.  And lessons learned typically mean progress and forward movement. Immediately I learned the value and beauty of life. Upon seeing the godfather of my son, lying there going in and out of consciousness, I thought, “Life is too be lived.” And it was then that I decided to do all with my life that I can. I learned also, just how great of a man the godfather of my son is. Every person that came to visit him, only had the most upbeat positive praise for this man. And I learned that when I go, when take my last breath I want to live a life that is extra-ordinary and honorable.

2. What’s great about this problem?

This is a brilliant question because it forces you to look for things that are great in an otherwise pessimistic or negative situation. It can help you to change your outlook. This sort of ties into the first question, but I realized that I am not dead yet. And that I have tons of life still left in me. And that I am going to live it. Hell or high-water I am going to do, be and have all that I possibly can. Also I saw a beauty in my wife that I had never seen before. She was so attentive to the needs of everyone. She was in such high spirit, she was like an angel, a light in a place of darkness. It was truly great to see. Later I shared with her just how proud I was of her for keeping up the spirits of everyone and staying positive. Truly great.

3. What is not perfect yet?

This question is, as Tony states,a presupposition that is basically presupposing that things will be perfect in the future. I used this question to focus on what can be improved upon. I thought about the future and the importance of health. I thought about how I can improve upon my own health and the health of our family. In addition, I thought about my relationship with my wife and all the silly and unimportant argument we had and how life is just way to short. I thought about how I want to improve our intimate relationship. I have a renewed interest in making the ideal relationship with my wife and improving our health as a family.


4. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?

This question will help you to uncover the steps or things that you can do in this very moment to change your life for the better and make it the way you want. I decided that I was committed to loving my wife and to focus only on the good. I was willing to stay positive and optimistic and most of all be grateful.

Great extra video (Time: 14:49 Minutes)

 

5. What am I willing not to do to make it the way I want it?

This question is a great question to look at those things that you might do that are not in your best interest. We all have bad habits and this question sort of brings them to light. I was no longer willing to complain about my wife, my son or my circumstances. I was no longer willing to look at the negative in life. I was no longer willing to let me lower my own high standards for living.

 

6. How can I enjoy the process?

This question will show you how to move forward and have fun doing so. For me, I was willing to be more lighthearted and just relax and enjoy the ride called life. I can enjoy the process by spending time in nature, time with family, being grateful.

These six questions are short but sweet. When you apply these six questions to any problem in your life you may just find that new shifts in your way of thinking and being open up. You may notice an entirely new point of view that you did not have before.

I know that I did. From applying these six questions, I have a renewed interest in my family and being a better man.

Here is a great Infographic:

For more information on solving problems, here is a great video/audio (23:09 Minute):

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2 Comments

  1. Thomas Jespersen

    October 19, 2016 at 11:08 am

    I journal almost every day. I get everything out in my mind. Solutions to my problems in my mind often appears as I write it down. The writing process is almost like therapy.

    I write about just about everything including my physical training. How can I feel it in my body? How does it change my energy-levels?

    • Bronson Tang

      November 1, 2016 at 11:59 am

      Thanks Thomas

      Great comment, yes journaling is a fantastic way to get the things that are in your mind out on paper. The way you can feel it in your body is that when you write you are by osmosis telling and directing your subconscious on what to focus on. The Triad of change and growth by Robbins, are made up of three things, What you Focus on, What you say to yourself and how you use your physiology. The Focus and self talk are both huge components. And both can dramatically change your energy levels. As you probably know 90% of sports and exercise is mental…hope that helps. Thanks